Wanna play? :-) I'll be gentle (ish)!

IC Name: BenjaminJBrown Joined: 23 Sep 2008 Last visit: 2 days ago Sex/gender: Male Location: Clifton, Bristol, UK Age: 28 Website: http://www.okcupid...

-- I'm generally much more active on fetlife and I've got lots more pics there: http://fetlife.com/users/45056 It's like IC: you have to register but it's completely free.

I check messages here less than once a week, but all unsaved messages on here get deleted after a week, so if you want to contact me reliably please find me on fetlife. ---

I'm now in a happy relationship and not seeking another partner, altho we are both interested in inviting friends and friendly strangers in to join us for kinky fun at some point occasionally, so if you think you might match feel free to introduce yourself.

I'm 6'1” 75kg, very fit and slim-athletic shape, kind, calm, "softly spoken but tenacious" as my tutor put it in a reference recently.

Kinky tastes: I'm into rope bondage for rough sex, intensely intimate D/s, but not very big on pain. Not a lifestylist or into fetish fancy dress (much). I enjoy the intimate kind of D/s, not the aloof disciplinarian style. I can be quite hardcore sometimes, but I'm more often very cuddly.

My tumblr blog [BigBadSofty](http://bigbadsofty.tumblr.com/archive) will show you clearer than words can what I'm into or curious about.

I got consciously into bdsm sexuality because I made a determination years ago when I left the monastery (after 6.5yrs) never again to repress any curiousity about anything that might be pleasurable, fun, interesting etc. without a clear sensible conscious reason. I'm basically just an adventurous, explorative and extemely flexible person, not a 'fetishist' in the strict sense of someone who absolutely *needs* any of these special things to be sexually satisfied ever.

I state I'm 'heteroflexible' mainly because I have a pedantic fetish for accuracy, but I'm really only a little bit bi-, which means I'm very fussy and can't help it. I have experimented three or four times, I would like to experiment more, but not just for the sake of trying things with guys who I don't really find attractive. My most enjoyable experiment so far was MMf with two friends. I'm only occasionally attracted to young guys, slim and-or athletic, really fit, face and personality averagely to extremely masculine (camp is perfectly fine for friends, but is a turn off for me sexually), non-smoking and light social drinking, intelligent and sociable, and only in the most crudely sexual and probably bdsm-ish way, not in a cuddly-kissy intimate kind of way -I tried it, and just didn't feel anything much.

My girlfriend is also really interested in inviting friends in to join us for sex and-or bdsm sex, in fact she keeps on initiating asking all our mutual friends! We're both interested in both ways -mmf and mff and mmff etc. Basically we like people and don't see any reason why not.

Single males are potentially welcome as long as you're reasonably sane and capable of holding a coherent conversation, and attractive obviously. No dick pics please, face and upper body will do. Girls and couples are of course welcome to introduce yourselves too and we'll get chatting!

Eye colour: Blue   Hair colour: Brown   Height: 6ft 2in   Weight: 11st 5lb   BMI: 20.3  

This profile was last updated on 3 Nov 10, 11:42 AM.

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