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IC Name: Belasarius Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Last visit: 5 hours ago Sex/gender: Male Location: Manchester, UK Age: 54 Website: http://twitter.com...

Female friends and playmates wanted.

curvy_bottom and I are now reasonably well known here.

We aren't looking for anyone who wants to be part of an exclusive family/household dynamic, but we are looking for female playmates who will be friends too. Ie, not one-off encounters and not necessarily kink first. We'd like to play with people we like and respect and who see us as part of a circle of friends whose friendship doesn't necessarily stop at the bedroom door. We aren't looking for exclusivity.

We might meet for play, or go out to a club, etc. We might go to supper, or the cinema and may or may not go beyond conversation later in the evening. But you would have a place in our dynamic when you are with us.

C_b gives me all her submission and she won't be submitting to anyone else (other than at my command). She won't be domming anyone either, though she would assist in carrying out my requirements.

This is a statement of intent, rather than an outright advertisement. I guess what I am saying is that, If you are female, more submissive than not and find that you and we get on, then it's quite likely you'll be invited to be a chum in the playroom and, perhaps, beyond the bedroom door. Refusal, of course, will never offend and friendship is always going to be valued more than anything else.

C_b and I have a rich, fulfilling life and this part of our dynamic is likely to be occasional only.

I won't be taking anything forward with anyone c_b doesn't get on with: She isn't sexually possessive of me (I am, of course, of her), but I am emotionally monogamous and i won't be taking things forward with anyone she doesn't respect and trust.

But, if the idea of being a chum and, from time to time, a part of our dynamic appeals, then this is our detailed lady-spec. She:

• has a desire to express her D/s nature (without frightening the horses - or the vanillas) outside the bedroom as well as in
• has profound confidence that by acting according to her nature she will get all she needs from us
• takes a delight in being the best she can be
• is articulate, opinionated (NOT bratty), intelligent and confident
• believes our minds are our most important erogenous zones

Importantly, but less fundamentally, she will:

• Regard informality with suspicion
• Be thrilled by our desire to show her off
• Be outrageously kinky – and prepared to be experimental
• Be able to think of herself as a potential (and very highly valued) sex toy – and see that in the context of a transparent, open and valued relationship
• Be prepared to think about the possibility of a sex toy becoming a friend and important to all of us
• Be able to see the above in the context of developing a proper pecking order, in which she will never be right at the bottom (that privilege is curvy_bottom's) nor right at the top.
• Understand that I only have the time to try to possess one person - though we would all want to feel we cared for each other.

She won't be into dressing up – because being “dressed up” is her natural state.

She is likely to be a Radio Four listener. She won't smoke.

She might well be turned on by the idea of being read to in bed.

Who do we think we are?

My partner and possession is a wonderful person - the bright, beautiful and increasingly Beryl Cookian curvy_bottom. I own her submission and share her life. We are bloodbound.

We believe the essence of a D/s relationship is the same as any other - caring and deep affection.

We separate the physical from the emotional, but expect shared affection and respect all round.

C_b is my love: That will not be shaken.

Who do I think I am?

A bonsai dom - apparently

Someone who strives to live a D/s life. C_b is my possession: I strive to deepen this.

I have a sense of humour and am prepared to use it.

I have children. I am solvent – but impecunious. I think I am generous of time and spirit and honest too.

Politically, intellectually I am a Radio 4 type and pretty liberal. I believe in rights less than I believe in responsibilities. My D/s style, however, is strict and demanding and becoming more, not less so...

What others think of me.

In my weblog ( http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/231848/ ), I've asked others who know me to say what they think of me - and I am posting their unedited response here:

From curvy_bottom:

"small but perfectly formed". (c_b is mine, and I hers, - so her view is probably more biased than most).

From Serene_Firefly:

"Well you know what I think all ready. But I shall post here. One minor spelling mistake first line should be 'looking FOR' not 'looking or'.

Otherwise, the profile shows exactly what you are: a thoughtful, intelligent person, generous and polite, which is exactly what drew me to you in the first place."

Fridayschild wrote:

"I like the honesty of the profile, straight to the point with no attempt to cover up what you want. I suppose your the type who will hang around the edges until you really know someone. Reserved and high protocol - not a hit and run type."

Toza says:

"He is: Dapper, polite, funny, posh.

By all accounts, a sumptuous cook.

Intense; deeply intelligent.

Experimental in a way which is quiet yet outrageous; he thrives on the deepest feminine submission.

A supportive and loyal friend.

Able and willing to own his emotions and take responsibility for them."

Lady Lola said:

"I would like to tender a quote on this man's dress sense; impeccable, like his manners. If he is single again, then put your best case forward girls - he's unique. Lady Lola.."

Troublesome_1 states:

"A mature, honest, well-spoken gent, who i respect a lot. A great knowledge of the inner workings of a D/s M/s relationship.. and gives advice freely. A pleasure to know and I hope you find the happiness you deserve."

Waterfall wrote:

"Having read your new profile i should find it difficult to be expansive on that already written, other than to say, you are no ' little man ', quite the opposite. xxx" (Belasarius says - I am pretty sure this isn't a physical reference)

Miss_Swoons told me:

'A consummate gentleman..and presumably a closeted fiend'

The curious will get my attention by quoting the word “Justinian” in their reply.

To conform to the AUP I maintain the profile of @I_think_you_mean and with @Curvy_bottom, that of the @Manch_Midweek_Munch, an event we jointly caretake.

Yahoo messenger:belasarius99   Eye colour: Dark   Hair colour: Grey   Height: 5ft 6in   Weight: 12st 7lb   BMI: 28.0  

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