"I think it's important to be the best you can be no matter the reason, but I think it's even more important to define yourself by how happy you make the people around you".

I've experienced that in the past - and am, very luckily, doing so again.

I believe D/s is about being equal but opposite and that submission is a gift that, once given, cannot be taken back. I enjoy rules, routines and ritual that are all designed to keep the spontaneity in a relationship where we never cease to focus on each other.

She desires to be adored as a bird in a gilded cage and we regard mutual dignity and respect as horribly important. I have all of part of her. She gives all of a different part of her to another.

I've no idea what the future may hold, just that I have been lucky enough to find an exceptional person with whom to carry on the journey.

I have children, whom I try my best to support. They take my time, my money and my attention. What little else I have, is hers.

ADDENDUM A little while ago someone, who knows me very well, and whose opinion I trust completely, looked at this and said:

"Don't make the littlies sound like a problem - they are your joy in so many ways. Be positive, in what is left of you will be a huge capacity for caring, romance, humour and delight in life - damaged is not right - a little battered, perhaps -but ready to fight on and be true to your needs".

She was right