Dominance is a key element in my relationships. I'm very empathic (which fits my style of domination and sadism), kind and above all tolerant (which is exactly the type of person I appreciate myself).

I'm Polyamorous. This means I don't see one relationship restricting the opportunities for other relationships. I'm Polyamorous when I'm single just as much as when I'm involved in one or more committed relationships. I'm also enjoy sex a lot.

My circumstances

I own one slave. Consensual slavery takes work, it isn't natural, but the work is worth it for those attracted to that kind of dynamic. wyllingwon has decades of experience as a submissive on the lesbian SM scene.

I work (as a software engineer) and live in a fairly rural location. I'm open to new contacts, serious and casual. It's difficult to be clear about what I am looking for because my emotional philosophy of being open means to some extent considering anything.

My BDSM

I'm comfortable in my sadism and my other fetishes. For me it's a core part of my sexuality: I am very sexual, but then I have a wide definition of what sex is. My areas of interest include complete domination, group scenes (threesomes), service, training, conditioning, mind control, humiliation, anal sex, fisting, watersports, pain, canes, medical scenes, rape play and more.

My Randomness

Some things I've done: Written and published fanzines, taken part in wilderness bushcraft courses, been a radio presenter, ran fetish parties, organized a national poetry and story competition, trained 5 days a week at martial arts.

Some things you'll never hear me say: Subbie, Newbie, Pussy (except when talking about cats) bum love Some Words and phrases you might here me utter: cunt (in it's goddess-given sense) I'm going to come while hurting you

Things I dislike

Prejudice: Expect me to speak out against it whenever I see it, whether it effects me or not.

Received wisdom: Expect me to analyze and criticize memes and anything that is believed simply because many people believe it, particularly in BDSM.

People who are habitually negative to other people.

Thank you taking the time to read this. To find out more, just start up a conversation by sending a memo.

(I pretty much enjoy most things when it comes to BDSM so I've only put down those interests that are particular high points.)