IC Name: AnEnglishMaster Joined: 10 May 2007 Last visit: 54 minutes ago Sex/gender: Male Location: South East, UK Age: 56

Here's the thing - I am more than just my interest in all things BDSM related. I am a lover of debate on all matters related to philosophy, epistemology, religion, politics, literature, etymology. I am passionate about language and words.

Semantics is not a dirty word. Particularly if we are to engage in debate, precision of expression matters. Too often, sloppy language is due to, or indeed, responsible for, sloppy thinking - a dangerously self-reinforcing process. If a scientist said "would you like to buy some carbon?", he would not be surprised by the response "graphite or diamond?". Similarly, if you want to debate "evolution", do you mean "origin of life" or "adaptation of species"? One is unprovable (on either side) speculation (albeit with evidence on both sides). The other is experimentally observable. What words we use, and what they mean, is of paramount importance in reaching understanding.

Unsurprisingly, I loathe "textspeak".

I bobbed in and out of here for a couple of years, merely as a guest. A year or two back, I took the trouble to "sign up". Now, I have started to post - mainly because a couple of threads got my dander up sufficiently for me to feel I had to comment (a man with his dander up is not to be trifled with).

That being the case, I have noticed that the number of people "checking me out" (hey, cool!) has risen significantly. Hence it seemed only fair to give some (limited) insight into me.

This, then, is very much a first instalment. More will follow in due course.

Second instalment, as promised!

A little more about me...

Just the bare bones - well, actually, the last thing you would get with me is bare bones! I am (as it says above) 6'2" - and built to match, - more Pavarotti than Prince, a big bear of a man. I give good hug!

I am in my early fifties (but look DECADES younger, don't you know, Darling!)and have my own teeth and hair. Well, I know it IS my hair, but still can't work out why it is grey instead of the dark brown that I know my hair *really* is. I have a salt and pepper goatee.

I smile. A lot. Sometimes with a glint in the eyes, at... interesting ... times. But also because I am a cheerful person. I love wit and humour - and dreadful puns that make you groan.

I like other things that make you groan. And gasp. Gasps are wonderful.

Second instalment completed for now. Hey, what did you expect - the omnibus edition?!

Oooh - just to illustrate another thing about me - I love acquiring knowledge and accumulating trivia. What I just typed reminded me - did you know that the above punctuation invention, of a combined question mark and exclamation mark - thus - ?! - is called an interrobang? If you did, and that knowledge is on top of the fact that you are female and alluring already, you just became even more interesting. If you didn't, but you are now pleased to know, that is intriguing too. If you didn't, still wish you didn't, think that I am just showing off (which is probably true, but I don't need it pointing out, thank you very much) and don't care - move on. It wouldn't work. Truly. Sorry to disappoint you - try to take it in your stride. There will still be *someone* out there for you - after all, in a world where Nigel Mansell can be voted Sports *Personality* of the Year (twice!), and where millions watch Eastenders (not all of whom think it is real), who am I to question people's judgment....

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Third instalment

A little about my "take" on things. I believe passionately that, to work properly, a BDSM relationship has to be a meeting and melding of two equals. The fact that the submissive offers her submission, which her Dom feeds on, and he offers his dominance, which she thrives on, means that each needs equally what the other provides.

I believe a good Dom should want his submissive to blossom - he wants to nurture and cherish her, so she becomes all she can be. Equally, a good submissive wants to honour and serve her Dom, so he will be fulfilled by her support of him.

Too often, in my view, some so-called "doms" are really haters of women, and use a BDSM cloak to mask their desire to take out their rage on a convenient female. I like to think, in contrast to that, that I really like and appreciate women - the "mechanics" (floggers, rope, spanking etc) in the relationship are merely props to take the woman (and her Dom) to a deeper and more intimate connection. The endorphin "highs" along the way are fantastic, but they are part of the journey, not the destination.

That being the case, I dislike intensely the word "play". To me, to do just the outer trappings of BDSM, and, moreover, to do so on a casual basis, is just licking the peach, instead of biting into it, to get both the really juicy part, and the nutrition it can supply.

So, I am not interested in casual connections. I have never had a one-night stand - and would not wish to do so. Similarly, the "scene" leaves me cold, and I have no desire to work out my BDSM proclivities in public with strangers, so I am not a "club" person either.

I recognise that my perspective above is not what everybody thinks - you are, of course, free to disagree. And to be wrong.....

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Time for a FOURTH instalment

First, a grumble. Why in the "likes and dislikes" section above, is there no option to choose "Kissing"? Kissing is delicious. And, with hand in hair, demanding tongue and a nibble to the lips of the submissive, it is certainly possible to be dominant in a kiss.

Am I "looking"? Kinda sorta. There is a certain person who is a distance away and is "unavailable" (complicated story). If that changed, I would be with her in a heartbeat.

But, apart from that unfulfilled longing, I miss the "being with" of being with someone. I have been divorced for a few years, so am not raw from that. Yet I yearn for all those little things that happen unconsciously when you are a couple. Being able to stroke someone's leg while I drive. To smile at one another briefly in company, when you both know what the other is thinking. Holding out my cup and expecting my submissive to fill it with tea. Being able to put my arms around someone and nuzzle her neck while she stands at the sink (chauvinist? Moi? ). Dropping a kiss on the top of someone's head when she is in my arms and she is letting all the tension go. Oh, and the tying her up, grabbing an armful of toys and doing dreadful things to her

So, yes, perhaps I am "looking". I am a gregarious person, but also very content with my own company. I don't seek 24/7. But, as I have indicated, "passing ships" is not for me either. I have no interest in poly or similar - and do not want to be an adjunct to a couple, whether with or without the other partner's knowledge. (having said that, if you have a hot and foxy friend who might like to play "piggy in the middle" on the odd occasion, I might be open to persuasion - what can I say? I may be a gentleman, but I AM also a "bloke"....)

That means, if I do make a connection with someone, it will be meaningful. It would be a relationship, not a "play partner" thing. Something more than sexual, and more than superficial. Times to be truly "together", but also time and room to be ourselves as individuals. Oh, and to be completely clear - I am dominant, and I never switch.

One thing I can promise. If we get together, you will laugh more than you have for a long time. And I mean WITH me, not AT me! Doh!

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PS - Jan 2010 I have just discovered that there is someone on Twitter (which I don't use) who has the name AnEnglishMaster. He is not me. I am not he. We are not each other. I am who I am.... I am my own special creation...

Eye colour: Brown   Hair colour: Grey   Height: 6ft 2in  

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