Say hello, in real life if possible I go to the Leeds munch and hopefully when I can get round to going, the York munch and often to Kinkdom. I like chatting to new people though I have been known to be a little shy, too. Sorry the following is so long!

I'm a decent, bright person who's currently enjoying a career involving books and finding stuff out for people. In daily life I'm strong in myself but restrained and polite generally (excepting joyous coarse and rude girly gossips with both men and women). I'm politically minded but not really an activist, essentially feminist and socialist and I like discussing all the different arguments.

I'm looking for someone around my age, who is intelligent, open-minded and a non-smoker. I like men and women, I'm essentially monogamous but would be open to exploring poly with the right person, and also don't like to be exclusive before I've begun to get to know someone. There is a difference in the way I relate to men and women - I tend to flirt too much with men and then be crippled with paralysing shyness around women, particularly if they're curvy and pretty, or butch and hot. I've not really explored how my BDSM side works around women yet, but I'd like to with the right person. Around men, give or take the occasional fleeting sadistic instinct around sub types, I prefer for anything lasting to suit my essential submissiveness.

Submission. At my core this is what I'm craving when I meet the right person for a lasting relationship. I'm a "grown-up" now, that's what I'm looking for. I'm not likely to want to spend any serious time dating someone who hasn't grown up in that sense. Age-wise, I prefer someone around my own age but there is a little margin with that.

Early on in submisson, I have to hold back for my own protection. When I fall for somone, it's hard and the submission only makes it more intense. I'm more likely to seem on the vanilla side of BDSM in early stages and interested in more pain later, when I know someone respects/loves me. I enjoy feeling nurtured and safe the idea of a daddy dom interests me.

I age regress when I play fairly frequently, so if this is a problem for you then you should not contact me. I do have some dealbreakers for a relationship which include: smoking, ignorance, selfishness and people who behave dishonourably.