I'm an easy going, intelligent, confident and successful man. I run my own media consultancy business and enjoy the usual things such as good holidays, nice restaurants, films, theatre, reading, weekends away, as well as laughing and flirting over cocktails in nice bars. Lookswise I'm attractive, medium build with short dark brown hair and green eyes. I'm good fun, outgoing, good company and loyal and protective to those who are close to me.

I also appreciate that what I'm looking for wont appeal to everyone, especially those more focussed on extreme one off role play or the fetish scene. I'm just looking for a girl who's genuinely submissive in nature and wants to be able to explore, enjoy and express that side of herself more deeply. You don't need to be experienced but certainly need to at least have a feeling inside that you can only be happy if you're being dominated by a confident, secure and strong but caring man. You want to experience the relief of having responsibility taken away from you, so that you're truly free to enjoy being who you really are, without guilt or regret. You're looking for someone on your wavelength who will take you by the hand, lead you and allow you to embrace and enjoy your femininity.

Of course it's not always easy as men often complain that women are complicated and that you don't know what you want, when nothing is further from the truth. Deep down you know exactly what you want but may not always be willing or able to express it, or perhaps you simply prefer that a man be a man and know what you want, without having to be told, and if he doesn't know he simply decides. Men often fail to realise that when you say you don't know where you'd like to go for dinner, you aren't looking for a debate on the merits of varous restaurants, you're looking for the man to just take charge and make a decision. You aren't high maintenance or difficult at all, you just aren't prepared to hand over control or your submission to someone who hasn't got a clue what he's doing, and instead want someone capable, competent and strong enough to take it.

So to be clear, I'm not looking for someone who goes to bondage parties or wants to frequent fetish clubs, just someone who knows they need to be dominated by a strong man and wants to find someone capable of doing that. In other words, I'm looking for someone who may sometimes feel conflicted by society's perception of what a modern woman should want and your own desire to have a man grab you by the hair, pull you roughly to the floor, rip your clothes off and do as he pleases with you. You may even have tried to suppress your submissive side in the past, but your desire to please resulted in you becoming everyone's problem solver, when in fact you want the opposite and for somebody else to take control for once, to take charge and own you. Maybe you also know that you can be a bit of a handful at times but long for someone to stand up to you, take you firmly in hand and put you in your place when you've overstepped the mark; and so are looking for some authority and discipline in your life. You want to please but need to be shown and told how instead having to figure it out for yourself, and therefore want a man who will enjoy taking you and using you for his pleasure, when and how he wants.

Given that we each have different perspectives and are looking for different things, I wish to highlight that I'm not the type to immediately order you around, tie you up, spank you and ravish you in various ways and would prefer to get to know you as person first to see if we'd get on. As such I guess I'm not really looking for casual play partners. First and foremost it's about you as a person and whether we click, as it would be nice to know that we'd get on despite our various kinks and not just because of them. Of course they're a lot of fun and can have their place in any relationship, and so being bound, beaten or both may well be appropriate for you at times, but there's so much more to it than that. It's as much about about leadership and guidance, from a position of care and responsibility, as it is dominance, physical force and control. First and foremost therefore, it's of the mind, and so whilst the physical and sexual aspects are indeed very appealing and enjoyable, they're part of a much wider and far deeper dynamic, which in turn makes things far more than usually erotic and intense.

I enjoy being in control, without being a control freak. I'm calm natured, relaxed and like to have fun, but I believe in firm discipline, without being an abusive bully. Naturally this means that physical punishment has it's place, but I suspect the type of person I'm looking for would equally find that simply being told how much she'd disappointed would cut far deeper than a few strokes of a cane or a beating with a belt.

I'm also a strong believer in domination and control of the mind before the body, so hopefully you're drawn to the mental and emotional aspects of domination as much as the physical; as taken properly and with care your hands can be held behind your back far more securely with a look and a few words than ropes could ever achieve.

Now, you may have always known that this is what you need and want, either from experience or otherwise, or you might be surprised at just how much this resonates with you and so may be uncertain or even a little shy about replying, but please don't be, as I'm happy to be patient and slowly guide you if all this is new to you, as long as you're truly genuine and believe that this is what you need and want. Hopefully you're also open minded, good natured, loyal and maybe a bit cheeky and playful. At times you may even feel a little disconnected from others around you, almost as if you're a spectator and not a participant. Perhaps you occasionally feel a bit lost and vulnerable and long to have someone to hide behind every now and then who will protect you and make you feel safe, by providing the discipline, security and control you crave. If you're genuine and this sounds like you or are just curious and want to try and find some direction then get in touch and tell me a little about yourself and we'll see how we get on.

Eye colour: Green   Hair colour: Brown   Height: 5ft 9in   Weight: 13st   BMI: 26.7  

This profile was last updated on 4 Oct 11, 11:17 AM.

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