At Peace

IC Name: A_Man_Alive Joined: 6 Aug 2011 Last visit: 5 days ago Sex/gender: Male Location: SW (South West London), UK Age: 55

Hello,

I am an older man in search of a hand to fold into mine.

Why am I here? Because I want to develop and explore a part of my sexuality that has not yet found full expression.

I am a natural leader, I have presence. I am attractive – in the eye of the right beholder. I am educated to degree level, articulate, cultured, and comfortable at all tables, enjoying crossing boundaries from Henley Festival to the Secret Garden party. From the Palm Court to a greasy spoon on Acre Lane.

I am drawn to femininity, style, intelligence, and that subtle something that suggests this is a woman who responds to a masculine man. To me it is as natural as breathing air that the man should lead and the woman follow. Like dancing, where the man's presence and control liberates the woman to flourish and catch the eye. And like a dance, the best couples explore and communicate and compliment and complete each other – it is not a place of dictatorship or bullying. To be Taken in Hand, not to be taken down.

You will be attractive to the masculine eye, will know this without conceit and comfortable in such awareness. You find yourself attracted to older men but only those who possess the wisdom, balance and strength you need. You do not find it difficult to find attractive men attracted to you, but not so easy to find a Man who instinctively understands your sexuality and knows how to develop it in the ways for which you yearn.

Age and looks are not as important to me as chemistry and connection – I have had successful romances from 24 to 50 and from size 8 to size 14 - but always BMI 25 or below. I keep myself fit and in as good a condition as the years of adventure allow. Of course the laws of attraction will have to be met – for both of us.

I am not so much interested in extremes as in depth. And I am definitely, very definitely, aroused by a woman's desires, and by my control in choosing whether and when to fulfil them. Whilst I will take responsibility for ensuring my own desires are fulfilled, pleasing me is likely to be very high on your list of turn on's – and I have a high sex drive.

As the man in a romance I love to explore the erotic balance, different for everyone, between the dark and the light. A woman whose hand has fallen into mine is nurtured and cared for whilst also obedient and respectful. Is enchained and liberated. Is disciplined and boundless. In mind and body and spirit.

I am fascinated by the TaiChi of woman and man together, the awesome spiral of tantric energy that can be created and re-circulated by the symmetry of opposites. By consciousness, connection and the energy that sparkles in response. A favourite quotation, from Zhuang Zi in C4th BC:- "There must be some primal force, but it is impossible to locate. I believe it exists, but cannot see it. I see its results; I can even feel it, but it has no form." Very QiGong. Also very IC.

I am single, solvent and sane. I am not wealthy, I drive a nice car and I live in a small flat. I love my work. I am in many ways very fortunate. I have grown up children with whom I socialise frequently and a small circle of very good friends. I will not be posting any pictures of myself on the site - largely because of the work I do – I will of course be happy to provide some at the appropriate moment. I will be taking my time. I know what I want. I know you are out there. I will find you.

In an IC relationship, for me, the vanilla is always under-pinned by the spice. At home, on the street, by ourselves, with others, at a concert, in a restaurant, at a club, driving, shopping, playing tennis, picnicking, on a cliff top, on a beach, awake, asleep, we will always be aware of the powerful IC dynamic that binds us together. In all these settings it will emerge in subtle ways which develop between us. And sometimes with an edge.

My interests are broad. From science to spirituality, which is itself a full circle - for there are perspectives. some intriguingly alternative, that would suggest they are one and the same. All is one. From literature to music – isn't the experience of creating harmony from two or three keys on a piano a fascinating scientific and spiritual reality? And a long time ago I noticed how similar my body postures were in the moments of music, meditation and orgasm. From psychology to physics ….. and so on and so on – we can discover in the fullness of time.

I find life more interesting and absorbing every day. In some ways I feel as if my life is just beginning. And in the context of IC perhaps it is. I am not experienced, in the way some men clearly are, at all the most rarefied arts of BDSM. I do want to learn, explore, grow, and complete a part of myself I know is waiting patiently, ardently. BD, DS, and SM have been a part of most of my romances, and perhaps it is only now that I am ready to take these delights to the next level. For me this is a way of being, and being together, 24/7, in life and love. As part of an awesome loving romance.

If my words speak to you, if you feel resonance in something I have said, then I look forward to hearing from you. In this moment you might feel you would be pleased if I were to find you and approach you - and are not sure having read this profile whether you should leave it to chance, or act. “If he does, it is meant to be.” Well, you are after all reading these words. Perhaps that will be enough. Or. Reflect on something that has struck a tingling chord and drop me a line to tell me so. And I, will indeed, have found you.

As well as through IC I can be reached at amanalive@gmx.com. I do not, however, intend to wait to be approached.

As a man I see myself as the one who will be stepping forward and introducing myself. I will always read and study your profile, I will almost always comply with your terms, though I may on occasion, if I find your profile particularly intriguing, and I sense it may not be unwelcome, allow myself a little licence with your age limits. If I offend you, then I apologise, will step back and trouble you no more. For I already know there will be some here to whom I will be of interest. And who will hold my interest too.

I look forward to making your acquaintance.

A Man Alive

Height: 5ft 11in   Weight: 12st 12lb   BMI: 24.9  

This profile was last updated on 11 Jan 12, 6:07 PM.

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