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A situation or relationship where the bottom, or submissive, partner is seen as controlling the encounter, or directing events.
Topping from the bottom does not refer to play between partners in the early stages of a relationship, or who are scening outside of a long term relationship. In this case the bottom often will have quite a lot of control over what is going to happen and even just how it is going to happen, with the top adjusting to the bottom's indications quite closely.
When referring to a sub or slave in a longer term relationship, the phrase Topping From the Bottom is often used as a negative assessment of the submissive's behaviour, or perhaps as a reflection of the quality of the dominant's control. It is quite pejorative in this sense.
Sometimes, however, even in such a situation/relationship, it is quite acceptable when the submissive is teaching the dominant something.
Some submissives have strong ideas about how they think a dominant
should behave and are forthright when someone doesn't dominate them just
the way they want to be dominated. People who make a habit of this are
also sometimes called "pushy subs" or "pushy bottoms".
Topping From the Bottom can refer to
scening, to sex, to lifestyle behaviour and is even a phrase used
with similar meaning in business management.See Also
(This entry in the BDSM Dictionary incorporates text from the Topping From The Bottom article in Wipipedia.)
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