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Taken In Hand
A Taken In Hand relationship is a consensually male-led exclusive
monogamous relationship in which the man's
control is real and for the purpose of creating a deeply connected,
fully engaged relationship. The term has been popularized by a UK Web
site (see links below).
How the man expresses his leadership and control is an individual
matter, but it is for the benefit of the relationship rather than being
purely self-serving. The Taken In Hand man protects and cherishes the
woman he leads. The Taken In Hand woman responds positively to her man's
authority and leadership. It is not necessarily a domestic discipline relationship, though it can be.
Taken In Hand couples often think of themselves as
vanilla (though many may not know the word in
this context!) and tend to be unfamiliar with or turned-off by
BDSM or its literature, perhaps because of its
exotic language, customs and rituals. Many Taken In Hand couples think
of what they are doing as being very ordinary. However, as with other
types of power exchange relationship,
there are no typical reasons some prefer this kind of relationship, to
another. Nor is there any assumption that this is morally superior to
any other kind of relationship: it is simply a preference some have.
Taken In Hand is not about the woman being slavishly obedient or
submissive by default. It is more likely to be about the man correcting
and controlling her to the delight of both. In some D/s relationships, the woman might aspire to be
more submissive, whereas in many a Taken In Hand relationship, the woman
will have no such aspiration.
Taken In Hand can sound boringly conservative and conventional to anyone
with a penchant for some of the more elaborate, painful, ritualistic,
theatrical, humiliating SM or D/s
kinky practices, but it often seems hardcore,
extreme, dangerous and scary to anyone who doesn't like the idea of the
man's leadership being real instead of stylised or confined to set times
and negotiated scenes.Further Reading
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(This entry in the BDSM Dictionary incorporates text from the
Taken
In Hand article in Wipipedia.)
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