Kiss

Kissing is using the mouth in various ways to excite and please one's partner, normally with their mouth but not necessarily. Women's lips are their number one erogenous zone so their partner can leave a lasting, eroticized impression with a good kiss.

Kissing is an art, not a science. There is no exact way that anyone can tell you how to kiss - each does it differently and the natural differences are one way people determine sexual compatibility.

The most important thing about kissing, as with any physical contact with someone else, is that you feel ready to enjoy it. There's nothing worse than being pressured into kissing. If it's forced you're not going to enjoy it - so don't do it.

Kissing is frowned upon with the BDSM scene and many fetish clubs have banned it. Kissing is seen as a particularly vanilla activity and therefore an anathema to many BDSMers. However many fetishists are attempting to reclaim kissing by openly snogging at BDSM events.

French Kiss

This involves the tongue. Surprisingly, the French call this "The English Kiss". The French Kiss is actually not that dramatically different from a 'normal' kiss on the lips. During a regular mouth kiss, your lips should already be slightly parted and relaxed.

Now, it's just a matter of bringing your tongue to the front of your mouth, until it touches your partner's tongue or lips. If their tongue is not already in position, the sensation of your tongue at their lips is a tell-tale sign that you're ready for this kiss to become a FRENCH kiss.

Love bite

This is not a vampire-like bite but a loving suck on the skin that will leave a mark. This can be taken as a temporary sign of ownership but can just be done just to remind your partner that the romance was not a dream, often also used by colleagues and friends to create mild humiliation .

Foot Kiss

An erotic and romantic gesture. It may tickle, but relax and enjoy it! To give a toe kiss by gently suck the toes and then lightly kissing the foot and ankle. It helps to gently massage the base of the foot while performing the kiss.

Earlobe Kiss

Gently sip and suck the earlobe. Avoid louder sucking noises as ears are sensitized noise detectors.

Positioning

If standing, make sure you are close to your partner. As the kiss is about to commence, tilt your head slightly. If you can see which way your partner's head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction or take control of your partner and move their head to where you want it.

Breath

It is important to have good breath. Regular brushing of teeth and general mouth hygeiene help. Bad breath is often caused by a coating on the tongue: to clear this coating, brush a few times gently with a soft toothbush and finish with a mouthrinse.

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(This entry in the BDSM Dictionary incorporates text from the Kiss article in Wipipedia.)

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