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In [b][about=BDSM]BDSM[/about][/b], [b]humiliation[/b] is one 
psychological technique a [about=Top (BDSM)]top[/about] may use on a 
[about=Bottom (BDSM)]bottom[/about]. It is generally considered 
[about=edgeplay]edgeplay[/about] because it touches strong emotional 
buttons.

The word [b]humiliation[/b] comes from a Latin root meaning earth. 
To "humiliate" someone is to bring him or her down low to the ground.

Humiliation is a highly subjective issue, and depends greatly on 
context. Although there are many examples of humiliation as a 
technique, success in training all depends upon the slave and what they 
find personally to be most degrading. While in a [about=dominant]
dominant[/about]-[about=submissive]submissive[/about] [about=scene]scene
[/about] or relationship, the submissive takes a subordinate role and 
may be called "[about=slave]slave[/about]", "[about=boy]boy
[/about]", "dog" or something similar. The submissive may also make 
displays of [about=subservience]subservience[/about], such as lighting 
cigarettes, walking a pace behind the dominant, only speaking when 
spoken to, etc. 

Humiliation play can involve physical and/or verbal methods. Some seek 
to be demeaned by acting a role, while others enjoy to 
be 'tonguelashed' and to be constantly told of their low status, and 
even be made to repeat this back to the humiliator. One example may be 
as simple as having a slave call their Master "Sir" or "Master." For 
some, this in and of itself is utterly humiliating, while other slaves 
may find that is not humiliating whatsoever. On the flip side, having a 
slave wear a collar and perform submissive acts in public or within the 
confines of a scene with other people may seem humiliating to some, but 
normal and natural to others.

However, a dominant may take care over insulting the submissive. Terms 
like "fat", "ugly", "stupid" or "worthless" could be considered abuse 
if this is not part of the understanding the top and bottom have 
[about=negotiation]negotiated[/about] for their role play scene. 

Depending on the roles and persons involved, terms like "[about=slut]
slut[/about]", "tart", "bitch" and "[about=whore]whore[/about]" may or 
may not be considered humiliation. For some people, such names are a 
way of achieving [about=ego reduction]ego reduction[/about], entering 
[about=bottom space]bottom space[/about], or getting over [about=sexual 
inhibition]sexual inhibition[/about]s. 

A classic technique to put a submissive into bottom space is to combine 
humiliation with pleasurable physical sensation, including sexual 
stimulation. Someone who is already inclined to be subby can often be 
put into a very submissive mental state by simultaneously turning that 
person on physically while humiliating them.

[about=Sexual roleplaying]Sexual roleplaying[/about] may or may not 
involve humiliation. For example, one bottom who plays the part of a 
dog may enjoy being mock-forced into it and the top will emphasize the 
lowness of the bottom's status as an animal. Another dog-player would 
rather play the role of the dog without any element of humiliation. 

One such form of sexual roleplaying is [about=objectification]
objectification[/about], where the bottom is cast in the role of an 
object.

It is also widely accepted that there are individuals who seek 
humiliation as a form of emotional release, thus, doing things like 
eating out of a dog dish, being forced to always kneel, displaying 
oneself or being forced to cross dress, are just methods a Master can 
use to bring their slave that much wanted emotional release.


[heading]Personal experiences


[item] [about=Humiliation - Personal Experiences]Humiliation - Personal 
Experiences[/about]


[heading]See also


[item] [about=erotic sexual denial]erotic sexual denial[/about]

[item] [about=forced exhibitionism]forced exhibitionism[/about]
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