Britain's secretive S&M scene (56)

Thu 7 Aug 08, 12:54 PM
Goldilocks
UK(GU), 19 mths
Flicking through google, researching BDSM and the law, I stumbled across an article on "The Scene" which I found interesting and wished to share.
It's probably already been posted on IC but I don't want to trail through every single web-board to make sure - sorry guys, I'm too lazy to do that at 1 o clock in the afternoon.
Anyway, I'm aware that the scene is quite secretive but that people are also aware it exists despite that. There seems to be some kind of scale ranging from really open and honest about it all to really closed and secretive whereby no-one knows.
I'm just thinking if there really is a scale, lets say from one to ten, where you'd put yourself on it in reference to your life, what events you go to etc.
One being really open and honest and ten being really closed and secretive.
Pick a number, any number. I'm interested to know how really secretive people are on the S&M scene....
Your power, our pleasure, my pain.

7 Aug 08, 12:58 PM
joanie
UK, 3 yrs between 1 and 3
Valerie M: Its only a baby needle, you wont know the difference. I am not a one dimensional needle obssessed domme...
J: Its going to be about sutures isnt it?

7 Aug 08, 1:01 PM
kisses_for_me
UK(IP), 24 mths
Anywhere between 1 and 10, depends on the level of trust and communication between myself and whoever I am talking to.
A cop out answer I know.
I dont do the big clubs, only smaller more intimate parties, and even there I dont actually play much, its more a social event. Im pretty regular at one munch, but tend to keep quiet and not be too specific. So generally I would really lean towards quite secretive as a rule. And to be honest, its not so much a fear of being outed that keeps me quiet most of the time, as a feeling of distance from most people and the idea that my life is my business and not really for public consumption. Perhaps a lot of that is because a lot of my ideas and thoughts are far from mainstream acceptance, even within "the scene". So it can sometimes feel like "the scene" is behaving towards me as "the scene" claims vanillas behave towards themselves.
Im an outsider, even amongst outsiders.
It's easy to tell the difference between right and wrong. What's hard is choosing the wrong that's more right.
I tend to be suspicious of all true believers. Present company included.
Elise Kraft, The Siege.

7 Aug 08, 2:13 PM
slave_atara
UK, 7 mths
between 9 and 10
not because I want to but because I need to

7 Aug 08, 2:25 PM
MsDemmie
UK(EX), 9 yrs
By virtue of the question - do not expect many 10's - they do not frequent places like this - they are that secretive
"Throughout history, it has been the inaction of those who could have acted; the indifference of those who should have known better; the silence of the voice of justice when it mattered most; that has made it possible for evil to triumph." Haile Selassie, 1892-1975

7 Aug 08, 2:35 PM
Deus_Ex_Machina
UK, 3 yrs
Eleventyone.
When I see you cry, I think tears are cool.
"Scotlands like the epicentre for global warming, and we dont even care. Cos it means we get to sit on our mountains and watch the fucking English drown."

7 Aug 08, 2:37 PM
DDDDom
3 yrs 11

7 Aug 08, 2:47 PM
Forsaken1
UK(B), 3 yrs£
1
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7 Aug 08, 3:18 PM
WickedHands
UK, 7 yrs
Undescribeable wrote:
Britain's secretive S&M scene
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I'm just thinking if there really is a scale, lets say from one to ten, where you'd put yourself on it in reference to your life, what events you go to etc.
One being really open and honest and ten being really closed and secretive.
Pick a number, any number. I'm interested to know how really secretive people are on the S&M scene....
Perhaps there are three questions here (er, or am I simply reading way too deeply into this?).
1) the level of actual involvement, irrespective of secrecy; or
2) the level of secrecy in the context of deliberately taking steps to leave others in the dark; or
3) the level of "secrecy" in the context of having a relatively low profile, but little, or no, attempt to hide the interest(s) from others.
For me, involvement is 2/10; deliberately secrecy 1/10; "public" profile (e.g. munches) 2-3/10.

Edited 7 Aug 08, 3:19 PM by WickedHands

7 Aug 08, 4:05 PM
masterofpuppets
UK(MK), 2 yrs
I have always been a 1, based on the fact that I like to be as open and honest as I can. In addition, I retired early from my job so have no sensitivity issues to contend with. However, in today's climate, I find my openness and trusting nature genes are struggling to function fully. We seem to be getting targetted by all and sundry and I think that, perhaps, more discretion is advisable. Maybe I SHOULD have worn that mask when I made those movies...........

7 Aug 08, 4:10 PM
scarlettsamm
UK(BL), 3 yrs
Guess id have to say 5 - in the middle, pretty open with family i see reg and with main friends,
mums at school, neighbours, man at corner shop...nope.
ETA ~ that level of openess is also true, about most other aspects of my life, and not just BDSM.
and Lady Stardust sang her songs, of.....
..............Darkness and Disgrace.

Edited 7 Aug 08, 4:12 PM by scarlettsamm

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